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How to Dance with a Partner

Preface

First learn to dance.
~ Sheldon Weitzen, social dancer

Welcome to Harmony Dancing.

Congratulations on your willingness to explore your dance experience in this uniquely, original way. You will learn how to lead and follow every step in every social dance. And, it is easy. Anyone that can walk can learn how to dance with a partner.

First Learn to Dance

When I was young, my dad asked me if I was going to a dance at my high school. I said, "No, I do not like to dance."

He laughed at me and said, "That is like saying you do not like to play the piano. You have no idea what it is like to play the piano. You can say you you do not know how to play the piano, but you cannot say you do not like playing the piano. The same with dancing. You have no idea what it is like to dance. You can say you do not know how to dance, but you cannot say you do not like to dance."

He finished, "First learn to dance, then you can say you do not like it."

For the last few decades I have been learning to dance. After a fling with disco in college, which I have not gotten over, my first organized dancing was Israeli folk dancing. The first thing I learned was to enjoy the company, enjoy the music, get some exercise and have fun. Was that four things?

Choreography Is Not the Answer

Next I tried salsa and the antecedents of this book were born. I made an attempt to document the complex choreography, but the book stalled. How we grow and change. I like to think my intuition rightly understood choreography was not the answer. This book is the antithesis of rote choreography.

Dance Teachers

Along my way I have found dance teachers to be excellent. Dance teachers are suprisingly consistent, regardless of the dance they are teaching. This consistency reflects universal truths about how two people move together to music.

However, this consistency includes being surprisingly vague about communicating with a partner. Until this book, there was no set of rules defining precisely what signals there are and how to communicate them.

Communication Instead of Choreography

When I found myself taking on a leadership role in both Israeli and swing dancing, I focused on communication rather than choreography.

In organizing the mass of information I had accumulated, a logical method emerged. I saw that communicating with a dance partner followed a few simple principles, easily learned by anyone, even novice dancers. I have codified these principles into the method I call Harmony Dancing.

Subconscious Communication

Dancing happens too fast for conscious thought. People communicate using subconscious cues.

Every now and then you come across an extraordinary follower that can follow nearly everything you throw at her. Whether she knows it or not, subconsciously she is using a simple set of rules that allow her to follow every step. Similarly, the best leaders are using those same subconscious signals.

Harmony Dancing elucidates these subconscious cues into an easy to understand language. The extraordinary effectiveness of Harmony Dancing is a testament to the accuracy of the language. Once you understand the language, you will be able to train yourself to communicate as effortlessly in dancing as you speak in every day life.

Important Insights Explained

Harmony Dancing provides an original, comprehensive explanation of how to dance socially with a partner.

Some of the principles you will learn include:

How To Use This Book

This is the rule book for how to dance with a partner using Harmony Dancing. Refer back to this book to clarify issues.

The method for dancing with a partner is quite simple, using only a few laws and signals that anyone can understand. In the Appendix you can find a one page Rules Sheet. The first thing you should do is memorize this Rules Sheet. Use these simple principles now, even if you do not understand them in detail. You can also find a complete Rules Summary of the logical system. Print this summary so you have this tool for quick reference.

An overview of the method of communicating every step is first presented near the beginning of the book in the chapter Language of Partner Dancing. The method is summarized again at the end in the Summary. Although each principle you learn is helpful, to understand the method in full, you have to make your way through the ABCDs. Only then will you know how to communicate every step unambiguously.

This book presents the ideas in the order in which they logically build on one another. Read the chapters in order so you understand why the method works.

Any information that is not essential to your understanding the method of dancing with a partner is in the Appendix.

Harmony Dancing makes extensive use of basic principles to help you understand the reasons behind what you are doing. Pay attention to the principles. They guide you when you have questions. You will find principles highlighted throughout the text. You can find a complete list in the Appendix under Rules Summary.

At the end of each chapter is a list of points to remember. Make sure you understand these before proceeding.

Certain nouns are capitalized when they refer to a technical term for Harmony Dancing. These terms are defined in the Appendix under Terminology.

Companion Workbook

The Companion Workbook is essential to your putting Harmony Dancing into use. The workbook gives you the practical implementation of the theory discussed in this book How to Dance with a Partner. The workbook presents exercises. If you have sufficient skill, simply reading the exercises as examples should serve their purpose in helping you to understand the concepts.

Read This Book More than Once

Read How to Dance with a Partner more than once. Each time you read the book, as your dancing progresses, you will have new insights. If you do not understand something, wait. When you are ready, what you missed will make sense. Like learning anything new, do not try to get everything, just try to get anything.

Learning to Dance is Only a Matter of Time

Training your body to dance to music takes time. For new dancers, if you dance once a week, you should expect to feel like a beginner for a couple of years. Enjoy the process. You only get to be a beginner once. Remember, everyone who shows up learns to dance, as long as you keep showing up with a good attitude. By following the principles of how to dance with a partner, you can be confident that each time you dance you develop good habits and get better.

Seek Enlightenment Everywhere

There are wonderful teachers and social dancers all over the world, with an incredible wealth of knowledge. You can learn from everyone, even if you do not agree with everything they are doing. The burden is on you to seek what is right for you when you learn from others. Different people will speak to you differently at different times in your life. On your dance journey, seek enlightenment everywhere.

Small Groups

If you want to learn faster, seek out small groups where you get personal attention from the instructor. The fastest way to improve is with personal feedback.

Group Leaders Need Feedback Too

Support your teachers. They need feedback too. Let them know what they can do to make the dance sessions better for you.

Do the Simple Things Well

The steadiest way to improve is to build your foundation one brick at a time. Work on your fundamentals and you will be well rewarded.

Find Something that is Hard for You to Do

The adding up of small advancements is how you improve your skills. At some point, you maximize a skill and there is not much room for improvement. If what you are learning is easy, you are only refining something you already know how to do. To get to a new level you have to find something that is hard for you to do.

Destroy Your Bad Habits and Reform at a Higher Level

You may be comfortable in your bad habits, but they are holding you back.

After dancing for years, I felt like I could do anything on the dance floor, until I saw myself on video. To my embarrassment, I looked like a big block of wood. "How did that happen?", I wondered. I felt so fluid.

When the music comes on, you do what you always have done. You have to intentionally seek out change. In a sense, you have to destroy your self to reform at a higher level.

Think for Yourself

Learn from everyone. Think for yourself.

People have a tendency to overestimate what they know, including me. I have not done a scientific research study. My evidence is anecdotal. Still, Harmony Dancing is astoundingly effective. Take the ideas of how to dance with a partner on their own merit. Understand them. Put them to work for you.

Andy, I find myself using what I learned from you everywhere I can.
~ Jim Rust, folk dance instructor

Points To Remember

  1. You will learn how to lead and follow every step in every social dance.
  2. Learn to dance before you say you do not like it.
  3. Communicating with a dance partner follows a few simple principles, easily learned by anyone, even novice dancers.
  4. Harmony Dancing elucidates the subconscious cues dancers use to communicate.
  5. This is the rule book for Harmony Dancing.
  6. Print and memorize the Rules Sheet.
  7. Do the exercises in the Companion Workbook to understand the principles of how to dance with a partner.
  8. Learning to dance is only a matter of time.
  9. The burden is on you to seek what is right for you when learning from others.
  10. Seek out small groups to get personal attention.
  11. Support your instructor.
  12. Do the simple things well.
  13. To get to a new level, find something that is hard for you to do.
  14. Intentionally seek out change.
  15. Think for yourself.

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